Leadership Secret Weapons

The Impact of EI (Emotional Intelligence) On An Organization

When we think of intelligence, we typically think of intellectual capacity or IQ. Studies throughout the twentieth century have shown that multiple intelligences exist in human beings. Psychologists have grouped them mainly into three categories:

  1. Abstract Intelligence: The ability to understand and manipulate with mathematical signals.
  2. Concrete Intelligence: The ability to understand and manipulate with objects.
  3. Social Intelligence: The ability to understand and relate to people.

Emotional Intelligence (EI) has its roots in the concept of social intelligence. First identified by El Thorndike in 1920. According to Daniel Goleman, EI is the ability to use our awareness of our emotions to manage behavior and relationships.

Emotional Intelligence involves the ability to monitor ones own emotions, and the beliefs and emotions of others.

  1. Self Awareness: The ability to recognize and understand your moods, emotions and drives as well as their effect on others.
  2. Self Management: The ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses and moods. A propensity to suspend judgment – to think before acting.
  3. Social Awareness: The ability to find common ground and build rapport.
  4. Relationship Management: The ability to understand the emotional make up of other people

The best leaders use EI to create a reservoir of positivity that inspires passion and motivates people to perform at their best. The leader is the individual who creates the conditions that directly determines people’s ability to perform well.

 

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

 

Trust – The Foundation of Effective Leadership

Trust is the foundation and framework of how we build any relationship. Establish trust with:

  • Words and deeds that are congruent
  • Willingness to admit mistakes
  • Following through on commitments
  • Recognizing ones strengths and areas for development.

Trust works like a bank account. You have to keep making deposits if you want it to grow. Each time you do something negative, you spend dollars. Do enough negatives due to lack of character or competence and you are bankrupt – and that’s the end of the relationship.

 

 

The four elements necessary for building trust are: Congruence, Openness, Acceptance and Reliability.

 

Consistent behavior is a powerful motivator.  To build trust it is important to identify the values that drive those behaviors. Here is a list of actions that leaders should take to demonstrate each element of trust in their daily activities

 

•     Congruence

•          Straightforwardness

•          Honesty

•          For example: having clearly defined and agreed behavioral standards

 

•     Openness

•          Receptivity

•          Disclosure

•          For example: openly share information and opinions

 

•     Acceptance

•          Respect

•          Recognition

•          For example: encouraging and supporting each other

 

•     Reliability

•          Seeks Excellence

•          Keeps Commitments

•          For example: taking ownership of their jobs

 

In summary, there is no question that trust is essential to being a great leader and developing a culture where people are engaged and committed to the leader and to the organization.

 

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

Formulating and Executing a Vision

Great leaders move people powerfully, passionately, and purposefully.  Nothing does this better than outlining a compelling vision for the future.  People want to know where they are headed and what the plan is to get there.  Vision does this!

 

Vision expresses where you are going.

 

Vision is what brings your employees to the dance floor.  It is a clear picture of the future used to inspire people.  At the same time, vision is not rambling paragraphs that include all the buzzwords du jour.  That is NOT a vision.  It is simply a long paragraph no one will remember.  Instead, compelling visions are a clear, concise statement that motivates and engages people.

 

Examples of Inspiring Vision Statements:

 

  • If you have a body, you are an Athlete.

 

This was an original vision statement of Nike, coined by Nike co-founder Bill Bowerman.

 

  • We bring humanity to the air.

 

This was a vision statement shared in a JetBlue letter to shareholders several years ago, and it remains firmly entrenched in the minds of JetBlue employees.

 

  • To inspire and nurture the human spirit – one person, one cup and one neighborhood at a time.

 

This is the mission statement posted on the Starbucks website.  However, I see it as a great vision statement because it is not talking about how much coffee the company is going to sell. It talks about the picture painted when employees do their job right.  Starbucks has known for a long time their company is not selling coffee, but rather selling an experience.  They are a haven in the middle of a busy day.  Starbucks wants to inspire and nurture us.  Guess where this vision needs to resonate?  With the people making your Grande latte.

 

Find a challenge employees can relate to.  No matter the size of your business, you have to infuse that vision throughout your organization.

 

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

Authentic Leadership

 

According to Bill George who wrote the book True North, authentic leaders not only inspire those around them, they empower people to step up and lead. The authentic leader brings people together around a shared purpose and empowers them to step up and lead authentically in order to create value for all stakeholders.

 

The journey to Authentic Leadership is:

 

  • Self Awareness
  • Values and Principles
  • Motivation
  • Integrated Life
  • Knowing your Authentic Self

 

Self Awareness: When you know yourself, you can find the passion that motivates you, and the purpose of your leadership. Leaders who know themselves well become comfortable in their own skin, act consistently in different situations and gain the trust of others.

 

Values and Principles: Being centered on your values is not easy, but it is essential to true leadership. When you have a clear understanding of your values and their relative importance, you can establish the principles by which you intend to lead.

 

Motivation: There are two types of motivation: extrinsic and intrinsic. Extrinsic motivations are measured by the outside world, and include winning athletic competitions or making money.

 

Intrinsic on the other hand stem from a personal sense of meaning of ones life. This can include personal growth, helping other people develop, and making a difference in this world. As individuals grow in their leadership capabilities, they tend to pursue roles that are in tune with helping others and making a difference.

 

Integrated Life: Authentic leaders are constantly aware of the importance of staying grounded: spending time with family, close friends, getting physical exercise, practicing spirituality, and doing community service.

 

In our next installment we’ll explore more of the center item – Knowing Your Authentic Self.

  

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

Info Exchange – Change the Culture, Change the Game

Welcome to the Loyalty Factor Information Exchange, a bi-weekly service providing summaries of major publications and books on various management and customer relationship topics. 

 Loyalty Factor has been instrumental in helping companies:

  • Increase Customer Satisfaction by 20 – 33%
  • Increase Revenues by 50% in 18 months
  • Increase Manufacturing Production by 200% in 18 months

Our information exchange this week highlights the book, “Change the Culture, Change the Game: The Breakthrough Strategy for Energizing Your Organization and Creating Accountability for Results” by Roger Connors and Tom Smith.

 

Mastering the ability to accelerate culture change is an essential core competency for every leader who wants to keep his or her organization competitive and focused. Organizational culture is defined as the way people think and act. 

For the change process to have maximum effectiveness, accountability is key. With accountability, people at every level of the organization embrace their role in facilitating the change and demonstrate the ownership needed for making true progress, both for themselves and their organization.

In this book the authors state “Beliefs about how work should get done affects what people do.” They outline three essential change components:

  • Experiences which foster beliefs
  • Beliefs which influence actions
  • Actions which product results 

According to the authors, if you:

  • Change people’s beliefs about how they should do their daily work,
  • Help them adopt the new beliefs you want them to hold,
  • You will produce the actions you want them to take! 

Effective leaders understand that beliefs drive people’s actions in the organization. When people see leaders reinforcing beliefs, everyone gets the message that “I ought to be doing that too,” which directly affects culture change.

To enroll an entire organization in change the authors state:

  1. Start with accountability – clearly define results.
  2. Get people ready for the change – Describe the process.
  3. Begin with the top and then proceed to enact teams.
  4. Engage and Involve Individuals – when people are co-creators of the culture it will be easier to implement. 

In summary:

  • Experience fosters beliefs
  • Beliefs influence actions
  • Actions produce results

 

Traits of Outstanding Leaders

Great Leaders Move People: Powerfully, Passionately, and Purposefully.


According to a global study conducted by the Harvard Business Review, only 15% of companies in North America andAsiabelieve they have enough qualified successors for key positions. The picture is slightly better inEurope, but even so, fewer than 30% of European companies felt confident about the quality and amount of talent in their pipelines.

 

In regions where companies are focused on growth strategies or emerging markets, they found the supply of experience managers is even more limited. This shortage is expected to continue for another two years. It is therefore critical for companies to develop their future leaders. Developing leadership  skills will make the difference in creating very successful and very profitable companies.

 

There are a number of traits of outstanding  leaders and it would be difficult to highlight all of them. I categorize them in five primary areas: 

Sets the Challenge

•  Creates and communicates a vision or goal that compels others

Engages People in the Possibilities

•  Speaks to the possibilities in a clear and concise fashion

Creates Trust

•  Encourages others to take risks through honesty, integrity, openness and reliability

Distributes Power

•  Values innovation

Celebrates Successes

•  Recognizes performance, rewards results

 

Ideally, through these behaviors a leader helps others be the best they can be.

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

 

Leadership Secret Weapon Series: Reframing Techniques

Have you ever had a situation where you have had to change another person’s perception? For example you had to give them bad news, or you had to handle an objection, or make a difficult decision. We have all been in these situations where we may have to give bad news.

 

Reframing is a critical skill that provides a flexible approach to changing perceptions with a particular problem or situation. It’s giving the situation a different meaning which leads to a different behavioral response.

 

There are four primary reframing techniques:

 

1)      Redefining: Expanding or narrowing the topic.

2)      Metaphor: Describing the topic’s likeness to something else that is familiar to create a better understanding of the current situation.

3)      Story: Using an example such as a story of a similar situation where the new approach had been tried.

4)      Spin: Creating positive and/or negative interpretation of the issue.  

 

The following story is an example of reframing (Steven Covey).

 

Story: You are on the subway with 3 obnoxious kids who are running all over the place and making lots of noise. You see that they are with their father and wait for him to do something to stop them. When he doesn’t after several minutes you finally speak up and tell him that you find his children incredibly annoying and obnoxious. He responds “Yes, they’ve been that way since their mother died last week. I don’t know what to do.”

 

Critical Point: The fact that the kids are annoying and obnoxious doesn’t change, but your perception of them does based on this new information.

 

Utilizing reframing strategies will help resolve conflict and difficult situations, in order to change perceptions and move forward smoothly.

 

Every problem has in it the seeds of its own solution. 
If you don’t have any problems, you don’t get any seeds.
- Norman Vincent Peale

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

Leadership Secret Weapon Series: Questioning Strategies

An effective questioning strategy is a powerful way to learn about the other person’s needs while building rapport.

 A framework to consider as you create your own questioning strategy is the Inverted Pyramid approach.

This strategy will lead you and the person to a definition of the problem.

 

  • Background Questions – encourage people to describe the current situation and give you a clearer picture of their problem or their business.

 

  • Process Questions – create a common understanding of what the person has done to resolve the problem and how the problem impacts the business.

 

  • Detail Questions – gather more specific information on the background and/or process question.

 

  • Action Questions - identify, assign and gain agreement on the next step in solving a problem.

  

All of these types of questions enable the service provider to try to determine the particular needs of the customer. Using a combination of questions manages the conversation.

 

By asking the following background question, it is amazing the information you will receive: “Can you tell me a little bit about what is happening within your organization?

 

Once the person has responded, then you can zero in with a process type of question: “How long has this been going on?” or perhaps another process question, “What has been done to rectify the situation?

 

Once you understand clearly what the problem is and what has been done to date, then you can go into details and ask specific questions like, “Have you tried the following?”  or “Has anyone tried the following approach?

 

This moves right into an action question. “I think X might work within this organization,” or “What do you think might work in this organization?

 

Using a questioning strategy of this nature creates a conversation, versus an interrogation. People love to talk! When you ask opened ended questions, you will be amazed at the information they will share with you. Questions are your “secret weapon,” and a questioning strategy will be the key to your success.

 

REMEMBER…YOU DO GET WHAT YOU ASK FOR!

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

Leadership Secret Weapon Series: Questions are Your Secret Weapon

In sales, consulting, and management, questions are without question, your secret weapon. Sometimes people say they ask a lot of questions. At the same time, when I ask them, “Do you have a questioning strategy?” they look at me very strangely. A questioning strategy is the key to establishing rapport, and identifies the other person’s particular values, beliefs and professional needs.

 

The nature of most service businesses is to identify and solve a customer’s problem. This is where a questioning strategy truly comes into play. Many individuals tend to ask close ended questions with ‘yes,’ ‘no’ or a short answer.

 

None of us are smart enough to ask all of the close ended questions we need in order to have a full picture of a situation or a particular customer’s needs.

 

I therefore encourage individuals to use primarily open ended questions and high impact questions, versus closed ended questions.

 

Open ended questions are used to gather information. They usually start with “what,” “how,” or “tell me about.” For example, “What happened?” or “How are things going for you?

 

High impact questions on the other hand are getting the customer’s commitment. They usually start with “What affect does this have on your business,” “How does that cause your organization to react to customer needs?” or “What does that result in for you in revenues, return to the bottom line, customer satisfaction, etc?

 

The key to high impact questions is what is the impact they have on the operation, and the business?

 

You can use the following 3 Step Process for developing High Impact questions:

 

1)      Identify the problem 

2)      Identify the business implications of the problem

3)      Turn each implication into an implication question

 

By getting people committed with high impact questions, they will take action!

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com

Leadership Secret Weapon Series: Do’s and Don’ts of Listening

Integrating the Empathic Listening techniques into your conversation and daily situations is something that takes practice. Here are some great Do’s and Don’ts to help in increasing your effective listening skills.

 

10 Do’s of Listening

 

 

1)      Be patient

2)      Take brief notes of key points

3)      Offer verbal encouragement

4)      Read between the lines for emotional messages

5)      Allow for periods of silence

6)      Let the person complete his/her thought

7)      Ask questions to clarify understanding

8)      Choose to understand the person by looking for their feelings and good intentions

9)      Summarize what has been covered

10)  Assume you have not understood everything correctly

 

 

10 Don’ts of Listening

 

 

1)      Don’t half listen, filter or selectively listen

2)      Don’t make assumptions regarding what the person meant to say

3)      Don’t jump to conclusions

4)      Don’t be too eager to talk about your recommendation

5)      Don’t agree too readily until you have heard the individual out

6)      Don’t interrupt the person

7)      Don’t finish the person’s sentences

8)      Don’t take so many notes that you lose the meaning of the dialogue

9)      Don’t judge the other person

10)  Don’t complete other tasks while you are listening to the person on the phone or in person

 

Remember:

“A good listener tries to understand thoroughly what the other person is saying.  In the end he may disagree sharply, but before he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with.”

~ Kenneth A. Wells

 

Dianne Durkin is president and founder of Loyalty Factor, a specialized consulting and training company that enhances employee, customer and brand loyalty for some of the nation’s most prominent corporations and many smaller businesses. Dianne’s proven expertise lies in helping companies quickly get to the core issues and outlining their impact on the organization’s profits, productivity and people.  www.loyaltyfactor.com